How to Solve
Disputes with the Helicopter Talk Technique by Peter Murphy
Do you ever find that when a friend asks for
your opinion on a
problem it is a lot easier for you to see a solution than it
is
for your friend?
And do you also find that sometimes you feel completely stuck
when it comes to your own problems?
The same applies to disputes, relationship issues and
disagreements.
When you are part of the problem it can be very difficult to
see
a solution. What you need at times like this is a helicopter!
Helicopter Talk Technique:
1 Imagine you are in a helicopter flying high above the town
you
live in. Now travel to where you last had a dispute with a
family
member, friend or work mate.
2 From the safety and distance of the helicopter above rerun
the
last conversation when the trouble flared up. Watch the scene
unfold and pay attention to how you communicated rather than
who
was in the right.
3 Ask yourself:
-- how could you have handled the situation better?
-- what could you have done differently?
-- what is the solution to the problem?
Your goal is to be emotionally detached yet concerned with
finding the best solution in the same way you help a friend
with
a problem.
4 Imagine a trusted friend is in the helicopter observing:
-- what advice would your friend give you?
-- what does your friend notice that you missed?
Your own private helicopter can be used to identify patterns
of
communication you have that land you in hot water as well as
new
ways of dealing with problems.
Have fun in the sky!
Peter Murphy is a peak
performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because
it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
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